Chris Duncan, Principal of Lindisfarne Anglican Grammar School, in NSW, raised a storm in the media this week with his school newsletter where he replaced his usual column with two sentences. “Get your kids off Facebook. This verbal sewer is harming your children.”
This is my letter to him. I have a child at the school.
Thank you for raising the issue of Facebook use. It needs to be discussed.
Go to any football match (any code) and you’ll find sections of the stadium that are verbal sewers. We can’t stop that but we can choose if we go to the game, where we’ll sit, and how to behave. Likewise, only some sections of the online world and Facebook look and smell like a sewer. But much of it does not.
As in the rest of life the individual must decide on their level of engagement and how they’ll conduct themselves. Participation in social media is no different. Any parent’s role is in helping their child to know they have the personal power to choose what they read, watch and share, and with whom they interact. They should be encouraged to work out and implement their own code of social networking etiquette. And they need to develop their own system of checks and balances to determine whom they believe to be authentic, what is fun, and what oversteps the line.
Bullying is a serious concern, be it in the backyard, schoolyard, or online. When it’s our child who is bullied, or when someone behaves in an anti-social way towards them, a responsible parent tries to help. We comfort them, and remind them they are loved. Then we give them strategies to deal with the immediate crisis, and to help them identify and be prepared for when distressing situations arise in the future.
Early this month Northern Rivers Business Enterprise Centre ran a NSW-government sponsored seminar called Social Media For Business. Every one of the 70 available places at Tweed South Sports Club was taken. I attended. It provided a useful opportunity to explore what place social media has in our business marketing, and in our interaction with clients and the wider community. We learned how to establish a business web presence relatively easily, and cheaply, and how to set up a seamless and simple interface between that and the various social media platforms. What we did not have time to delve into was how to write and interact, and the etiquette of online and social media. As someone who has written, taught and helped business people with written content offline and online, I’ve noticed that many people don’t know how to convey their message clearly, or how to interact with ease. In many cases they’ve never been shown how.
Social media is a reality of business and public life, and of everyday social interaction, and everyone at the seminar was there to learn more. It may not be mine, or everyone’s favourite way of spending their time, or conversing with clients, and it’s not the be-all of marketing but social media is too big to be sidelined, or ignored.
There has been a lot of debate about how active schools should be in teaching netiquette, and in engaging with social media as part of the curriculum. Personally, I think it is best to be at the front of the wave, because social media is not going away, and it’s evolving all the time.
My suggestion is that Lindisfarne Anglican Grammar School, and indeed many schools, should actively seek educators and speakers on the topic of social media, to visit and talk to, and run programmes for teachers, students and parents about how to safely use and interact on social media. Recently Lindisfarne played host to an excellent speaker who gave a wonderful talk about how to relate to teenage boys. A session about social media would help not only to know the risks and how to handle them, but also how to integrate, and keep in proportion the place of social media in everyday life.
This would offer a positive alternative to creating an atmosphere of fear around Facebook and other social media. These things should be treated just like anything taught or used at school. For example, Twitter and Facebook are now vital means of communications in emergencies, and in the distribution of news.
With creative programs, well-thought out campaigns, and the development of online communities that are welcoming, relevant and accessible to students, their parents and teachers alike, students can learn how to handle themselves on social media platforms and use them to the good.
Kind regards,
Marian Edmunds
Parent & writer.